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You're not too sensitive.  You're not overthinking.  You're not crazy.

You’ve been trained—slowly, methodically, and quietly—to doubt your own reality.

That’s what covert emotional abuse is designed to do.


Do you think you're being covertly abused?

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HOW IT FEELS

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WALKING ON EGG SHEELS &

CONSTANT APOLOGIZING

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RANDOM ANXIETY &

MENTAL FOG

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WITHHOLDING THOUGHTS &

FEELING EMOTIONALLY ALONE

WHAT COVERT ABUSE REALLY LOOKS LIKE

  • Covert abuse hides behind fake kindness, half-truths, and manipulative silence. 
  • They don’t scream—they gaslight. 
  • They don’t hit—they guilt trip. 
  • They don’t control you directly—they make you control yourself.

IF SOMEONE MAKES YOU DOUBT YOURSELF SO THEY CAN STAY IN CONTROL -<br>THAT'S ABUSE. PERIOD.

IDENTIFY WHAT HAS BEEN DONE TO YOU

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WHAT IS COVERT ABUSE?

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SIGNS OF COVERT NARCISSISM

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COERCIVE CONTROL EXPLAINED

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GASLIGHTING VS. CONFLICT

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WHY YOU'RE SO EXHAUSTED

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WHY EMPATHS GET TARGETED

STILL NOT SURE IF THIS APPLIES TO YOU?

Take the quiz that has helped so many women validate their experience.

When you’re ready to move forward, healing is waiting...

But first, get clear. Understand the patterns. Name the damage.

If you’ve ever found yourself second-guessing your reality, walking on eggshells, or wondering if you are the problem in your relationship—stop right there. You're not imagining it. You're being emotionally manipulated.


Covert narcissistic abuse is one of the most invisible and destructive forms of emotional harm. It’s not the yelling. It’s not the obvious cheating or rage. It’s the subtle digs, the slow erosion of your self-trust, and the way you start shrinking yourself to keep the peace.


I know this road—because I’ve walked it. I lived in a fog of coercive control, gaslighting, passive aggression, and emotional confusion for years. And I didn’t even know there was a name for it.


This site is here to name it for you. To validate what you’ve been feeling. And to show you that you’re not crazy. You’re just in the presence of someone who has trained you to doubt your own mind.

30 Covert Narcissist Behaviors That Will Make You Think You’re the Crazy One